Handle huge images in IPP distanceTransform #24535
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* Do not use IPP for huge Mat (reproduced with https://github.com/opencv/opencv/issues/23895#issuecomment-1708132367 on `DIST_MASK_5`)
I have observed two types of errors on the reproducer from the issue:
1. When `temp` is not allocated:
```
Thread 1 "app" received signal SIGSEGV, Segmentation fault.
0x00007ffff65dc755 in icv_l9_ownDistanceTransform_5x5_8u32f_C1R_21B_g9e9 () from /home/dkurtaev/opencv_install/bin/../lib/libopencv_imgproc.so.408
(gdb) bt
#0 0x00007ffff65dc755 in icv_l9_ownDistanceTransform_5x5_8u32f_C1R_21B_g9e9 () from /home/dkurtaev/opencv_install/bin/../lib/libopencv_imgproc.so.408
#1 0x00007ffff659e8df in icv_l9_ippiDistanceTransform_5x5_8u32f_C1R () from /home/dkurtaev/opencv_install/bin/../lib/libopencv_imgproc.so.408
#2 0x00007ffff5c390f0 in cv::distanceTransform (_src=..., _dst=..., _labels=..., distType=2, maskSize=5, labelType=1) at /home/dkurtaev/opencv/modules/imgproc/src/distransform.cpp:854
#3 0x00007ffff5c396ef in cv::distanceTransform (_src=..., _dst=..., distanceType=2, maskSize=5, dstType=5) at /home/dkurtaev/opencv/modules/imgproc/src/distransform.cpp:903
#4 0x000055555555669e in main (argc=1, argv=0x7fffffffdef8) at /home/dkurtaev/main.cpp:18
```
2. When we keep `temp` allocated every time:
```
OpenCV(4.8.0-dev) Error: Assertion failed (udata < (uchar*)ptr && ((uchar*)ptr - udata) <= (ptrdiff_t)(sizeof(void*)+64)) in fastFree, file /home/dkurtaev/opencv/modules/core/src/alloc.cpp, line 191
terminate called after throwing an instance of 'cv::Exception'
what(): OpenCV(4.8.0-dev) /home/dkurtaev/opencv/modules/core/src/alloc.cpp:191: error: (-215:Assertion failed) udata < (uchar*)ptr && ((uchar*)ptr - udata) <= (ptrdiff_t)(sizeof(void*)+64) in function 'fastFree'
```
* Try enable IPP for 3x3 (see https://github.com/opencv/opencv/issues/15904)
* Reduce memory footprint with IPP
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- [x] There is accuracy test, performance test and test data in opencv_extra repository, if applicable
Patch to opencv_extra has the same branch name.
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Dmitry Kurtaev
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