Resolve uncovered CUDA dnn layer #24080
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* Gelu activation layer on CUDA
* Try to relax GEMM from ONNX
resolves https://github.com/opencv/opencv/issues/24064
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dnn: add layer normalization for vision transformers
* add layer norm onnx parser, impl and tests
* add onnx graph simplifier for layer norm expanded
* handle the case when constants are of type Initializer
* add test case for layer norm expanded with initializers
* use CV_Assert & CV_CheckType in place of CV_Assert_N; use forward_fallback for OCL_FP16
* use const ref / ref in parameters of invoker::run; extract inner const if from nested loop; use size_t in place of ull
* template hasBias
* remove trailing whitespace
* use pointer parameter with null check; move normSize division & mean_square division outside of loop; use std::max to ensure positive value before std::sqrt
* refactor implementation, optimize parallel_for
* disable layer norm expanded
* remove the removal of layer norm optional outputs
Reimplementation of Element-wise layers with broadcasting support
* init
* semi-working initial version
* add small_vector
* wip
* remove smallvec
* add nary function
* replace auto with Mat in lambda expr used in transform
* uncomment asserts
* autobuffer shape_buf & step_buf
* fix a missing bracket
* fixed a missing addLayer in parseElementWise
* solve one-dimensional broadcast
* remove pre_broadcast_transform for the case of two constants; fix missing constBlobsExtraInfo when addConstant is called
* one autobuffer for step & shape
* temporal fix for the missing original dimension information
* fix parseUnsqueeze when it gets a 1d tensor constant
* support sum/mean/min/max with only one input
* reuse old code to handle cases of two non-constant inputs
* add condition to handle div & mul of two non-constant inputs
* use || instead of or
* remove trainling spaces
* enlarge buf in binary_forward to contain other buffer
* use autobuffer in nary_forward
* generate data randomly and add more cases for perf
* add op and, or & xor
* update perf_dnn
* remove some comments
* remove legacy; add two ONNX conformance tests in filter
* move from cpu_denylist to all_denylist
* adjust parsing for inputs>=2
Co-authored-by: fengyuentau <yuantao.feng@opencv.org.cn>