Original PR was #34307, reverted in #34318 due to internal test
failures.
The first commit is a revert of the revert. The second commit contains
the fix.
The original idea here was that `SubchannelWrapper::Orphan()`, which is
called when the strong refcount reaches 0, would take a new weak ref and
then hop into the `WorkSerializer` before dropping that weak ref, thus
ensuring that the `SubchannelWrapper` is destroyed inside the
`WorkSerializer` (which is needed because the `SubchannelWrapper` dtor
cleans up some state in the channel related to the subchannel). The
problem is that `DualRefCounted<>::Unref()` itself actually increments
the weak ref count before calling `Orphan()` and then decrements it
afterwards. So in the case where the `SubchannelWrapper` is unreffed
outside of the `WorkSerializer` and no other thread happens to be
holding the `WorkSerializer`, the weak ref that we were taking in
`Orphan()` was unreffed inline, which meant that it wasn't actually the
last weak ref -- the last weak ref was the one taken by
`DualRefCounted<>::Unref()`, and it wasn't released until after the
`WorkSerializer` was released.
To this this problem, we move the code from the `SubchannelWrapper` dtor
that cleans up the channel's state into the `WorkSerializer` callback
that is scheduled in `Orphan()`. Thus, regardless of whether or not the
last weak ref is released inside of the `WorkSerializer`, we are
definitely doing that cleanup inside the `WorkSerializer`, which is what
we actually care about.
Also adds an experiment to guard this behavior.